How to enjoy life with a companion

See how to enjoy life with your partner – your companion.  Create an exciting, life of adventure!  This article that will help you by showing you how to work on your relationship

Your partner – your companion – What does it look like?

Normally when I think about a companion or companionship, I think of the kind you see between aging couples, I think of knee rugs, cups of tea and presents for the grand kids. You know, just pottering around the house together until one of us finally kicks the bucket.

When some women think of a companion they think of strolls along the beach. I’m not sure if this is how you think of a companion but there’s something you need to understand about your man.

Your companion is generally a risk taker

Sure, I’ve taken on the responsibilities of adulthood, I’m a husband, a father and a productive member of society but no matter how mature I am, I still enjoy challenges.

John Eldredge wrote a book entitled, ‘Wild at Heart’.  In his book he states that every man has three underlying needs in life;  a battle to fight, a beauty to rescue and an adventure to live.

Men crave risk and adventure

As John says in his book there are no little boys who want to grow up to be really nice guys. They all want to be firemen or astronauts. I can’t help but notice that there are professions that are inherently risky and full of adventure.

The world we live in today is becoming more and more risk averse.

The very nature of boys is under threat

We spend all our time telling little Johnny to stop that, don’t climb that and get down from there. Poor little Johnny is only doing what God created him to do. He’s trying to live a life full of adventure! Be careful not to squash that in your boys or in your man.

We need it desperately and if we don’t get it we can turn to other unsavoury things to fill the void!

More on that later!

There is an ad for tyres on TV where all the cars are carnival bumper cars and the voice-over states, “we all want to live in a safer world, where life’s little mishaps can be fixed with a simple wave”. I hate that ad. I actually don’t want to live in a safer world, how boring that would be. I want to do something adventurous! Something that would be a great story for the grand kids! Imagine a granddad with no stories to tell, what a travesty!

Unfortunately risk takers are no longer celebrated in modern culture; If at all possible they are diagnosed with some disorder and given personality-destroying drugs. We seem to be trying to remove all possibility of negative consequences from our lives but we need to take some risks in life or we become destined to live a meaningless existence.

Men get bored with the mundane –  paper work and helping around the house

Boys are growing into men who are still playing video games into their forties! Could it be they are simply looking for adventure.

I mentioned earlier that men can turn to unsavoury habits to fill a void. Video games are ok as a pastime but these can ruin relationships if there is an addiction involved. Pornography, alcohol and gaming are the most common. There can be many others! They can give a man a sense of adventure, there’s risk involved and, it can sometimes be more exciting than life at home. This is in no way should be an excuse for poor choices or poor behaviour.

I’m simply suggesting that we were created to live a life of adventure and if this need isn’t fulfilled in a godly way within a loving relationship then it may get fulfilled in other more destructive ways.

By Mark Paul

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